CounsellingSometimes you might find it difficult to cope and don’t know why. Other times people know the source of their problems but can’t cope with going to their GP or telling family or friends. It could be something that’s changed in the family, the death of a loved one or an unexpected illness. Losing your job, feeling bullied at work and just feeling under too much pressure can lead to self medication, using drugs, alcohol or risky behaviours, to blot out anxieties and depression. Life changes, like having a new baby, can bring up forgotten or hidden feelings that we think we have put behind us.
You can suddenly be overwhelmed by loneliness, whether you live alone or surrounded by friends and family, and just don’t know what to do to make things better. These feelings not only leave people feeling bad but can interfere with your ability to cope with everyday life.
Common issues that people bring to counselling (this list is not exhaustible).
- Depression - Sleeplessness
- Bereavement and other losses - Feelings of guilt and shame
- Issues in relationships and/or sexuality - anxiety or panic attacks
- Rape & sexual violence - suicidal thoughts
- Low self esteem & meaningless - forgetfulness and lack of motivation, not wanting to go out
- Childhood abuse and neglect - turning to alcohol and/or drugs to help you cope
- Living with a serious illness, eg. cancer or alzheimer’s disease
- Change in eating habits, with excessive weight gain or loss
- Life crisis and change - general ill health with increase in sickness and GP visits
- Obsessive compulsive disorders
How Can Counselling or Psychotherapy Help?I will help you explore your issues and understand why they are getting in the way of you living your life the way you would want. Often people want to use their therapy to make adjustments that help improve their life. These adjustments might involve taking a fresh approach to an ongoing problem, reviewing and experimenting with new ways of behaving, or looking at personal history and making links with how this influences your life today. This knowledge can help you improve your self-esteem and confidence. Sometimes problems are simply solved in twelve/sixteen sessions and you feel more able to cope again. Deeper rooted problems can take a longer time, because issues that you might have been living with most of your life don’t disappear over night, it can take time to change the patterns of behaviour developed to help you cope. For example, if you were abused or bullied as a child, in order to cope you might have learnt to disassociate or block out the difficult feelings. But as an adult this response to problem situations can be inappropriate or make matters worse, particularly in relationships. I can help you work on this. Everything you discuss is confidential.
How to make an Appointment.Maybe the hardest part of the counselling process is making that first appointment. Sometimes it's difficult to reach out and ask for help; often people put up with feeling unhappy.
If you would like to consider therapy just pick up the phone to make an appointment (tel: 01227 261159). The first session will give you the opportunity to meet the me, share your issues so that I can find out more about you. This will help you decide whether we are able to work together and find out more about the therapy process. The first session will be for an hour and there is a fixed fee. I try to make my rates affordable to all. If you wish to commit to more sessions we will arrange for a time to meet regularly each week for 50 minutes.
Cost: £45 per session (reduced rates for therapy students and those on low incomes)